Inside: As a busy mom it’s so easy to find yourself lost in “mom fog”. Check out these practical and realistic tips that can help you out of your mom fog and learn how to stay out!
It was 2:00pm but it felt like 2:00am. My eyes were heavy, my hair looked like a bird’s nest, and I was moving at a sloth’s pace. I see my husband talking but all I heard was the sound of white noise. I was consumed by my mom fog and was failing to take care of myself.
Being a mom is amazing but when you become a mother, everything about you changes. Your priorities, your responsibilities, your daily tasks — everything. But what do you do when you feel like you lost yourself to motherhood?
First and foremost, you need to KNOW that feeling like you are lost in a mom fog is completely normal. Almost every mom experiences this feeling in some shape or form. Whether its 100% or 5%.
Do NOT beat yourself up when you feel overwhelmed with motherhood!
When you feel like you are losing yourself to motherhood, the most important thing to do is to be preventative and to take care of yourself- emotionally, mentally, and physically- right away.
We all know that motherhood is not for the faint of heart but when you find ways to encourage yourself and surround yourself with a support system, things become SO much easier!
Here are some tips to help you out of mom fog- when you feel like you are just lost, overwhelmed, and stressed with mom life.
What “mom fog” may feel like:
- You feel “trapped”
- You may feel you “lost yourself to motherhood”
- You can easily get stir crazy being at home for long periods of time
- You can be easily irritated and lose your patience
- You don’t do your beauty or health routines that you did before you were a mom
- You feel you need “space”
- You feel you never have time alone
- You feel your whole day revolves around your children’s schedule
- You rarely buy anything for yourself or focus on things you like to do
Tips to Help You Out of Your Mom Fog
Share your feelings & Find Support
One of the most important things to do when you feel you are lost in a mom fog is to find support and share your feelings with someone you love. Don’t bottle up your feelings and feel like the world is against you.
Raising a baby takes a village, and so does being a mom. Having people around you that love you, support you and care for you is essential!
Even if you feel like they won’t understand, take a chance and trust someone with how you are feeling. You might be surprised at how much they understand you. Or talk to another mother- she may be able to encourage you and tell you that she went through the same thing!
Trust me, every mother experiences some sort of mom fog!
Focus on self-care
Mom life is all about being selfless. It’s putting all of your energy into caring for another human being. But sometimes we focus so much on caring for our children and family that we forget to care for ourselves.
Making time to pamper yourself and tend to YOU is SO crucial.
Think of yourself as a cup. In order to “pour out” into your baby and your husband and your family, your cup needs to be full. Or else you will be pouring out nothing!
Self-care is willingly choosing to fill up your cup. Do things that make you happy. Go out for coffee. Get your nails done. Take a long bubble bath. Or wake up every morning and read a chapter of your favorite book. Do anything that is focusing on YOU!
Take a step back
When you start to feel like you are head deep in a mom fog, you need to take a step back. Maybe have your husband put the kids down for bed or go for a walk or a drive to your favorite place. You want to remove yourself from the situation that is making you feel lost.
The best thing to do when I start to feel like I’m losing myself is to immediately to be preventative. Taking a step back can be the very thing you need to do in order to prevent losing yourself even further.
Take a breather and try to engulf yourself is things that make you feel better and valuable.
Spend time with your spouse
I know this seems crazy, but one of the things that REALLY helps me when I’m feeling lost in mom fog is to spend alone time with my husband. For some reason it makes me remember all of the times that we were just husband and wife and not mom and dad.
And it makes me feel SO much better. A lot of the time we think because we are a mom that we have to do things all by ourselves. But just like Superman needs his power from the sun, so do we.
Spending some quality time with your spouse can be the “power source” you need that can stabilize you and encourage you on a weekly or daily basis. When I’m honest with my husband about what I’m feeling, he has this habit of just taking away all of my worries by telling me what I need to hear.
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Find something that will encourage you daily
Feeling like you are in a huge mom fog can be something that occurs more than once. But you want to be able to prevent that sinking feeling by having things on hand that you know is guaranteed to encourage you.
Try to find things that you know will encourage you on a daily basis. Try to pinpoint the things that make you feel like you are losing yourself and combat those things with encouragement.
Maybe you can make a weekly schedule that is just for you that has all of the things that you want to accomplish for yourself. Write down the things you want to eat that week, or how many times you want to exercise, or the times that you want some alone time. Do things that make you feel GOOD!
Remember that being a mom is the best job in the world!
I know it’s really easy to get overwhelmed and stressed about all of the things that come along with being a mother but it’s so important to remember how amazing mom life is.
Sure, it may be something that’s completely different than what you were doing before you had your baby but motherhood is just that- a whole new world.
Being a mom is the hardest thing I’ve ever done but it’s also the most satisfying and rewarding thing I’ve ever experienced. For every bad day, for every diaper splatter, for every long night, and sleepless day comes beautiful, rewarding, worthwhile moments with your baby.
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One of the greatest tips to battling and preventing mom fog is to truly commit time to your self-care. You may not have a lot of time to focus on yourself, but even 5 minutes every couple of days is enough.
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Even though I am crazy busy and super stressed, I wouldn’t want to be doing anything else than being there for my children and being the one to see them grow every day.
So now, every time I feel like I’m being so consumed by my mom fog that I’m spacing out and hearing white nose, I find my baby and give her a big kiss!
When you feel lost, frustrated, irritated, and overwhelmed, give your baby a big kiss and hug and know that this time will be gone in a blink of an eye so be sure to enjoy it!
You are doing a great job, momma! Don’t give up!
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